Purpose: To promote the life script.The roles of Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim are portrayed in psychological games.Serves as a training ground for powerlessness. Prevents psychological equality in relationships.
Will go on as long as someone is willing to be victimized.
Think if you will about a triangle. On each end are roles that we play in life. One is the persecutor, another is the victim and the last is the rescuer.
**If anyone in this triangle changes roles, the other two roles change as well.
PERSECUTOR - "It's All Your Fault"
Sets strict limits unnecessarily.
Blames
Criticizes
Keeps Victim oppressed
Is mobilized by anger
Rigid, authoritative stance
"Critical" Parent
TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO CLEAR STRUCTURE
VICTIM - "Poor Me"
Feels victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed
Looks for a Rescuer that will perpetuate their negative feelings.
If stays in Victim position, will block self from making decisions, solving problems, pleasure and self-understanding.
"Dejected" stance.
TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO PROBLEM SOLVING
RESCUER - "Let Me Help You"
Rescues when really doesn't want to.
Feels guilty if doesn't rescue.
Keeps victim dependent.
Gives permission to fail.
Expects to fail in rescue attempts.
"Marshmallow" Parent
TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO CLEAR NURTURING
Typical examples of common triangular situations are:
- criminal, victim and police
- father, son and mother
- teachers, children and parents
- illness, patient and therapist
- colleague, me and manager
- drawback, me and the rest of the world
- situation, coachee and coach.
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