More on the drama triangle-
Playing in this drama triangle ultimately leads to a very boring life. Over and over again the game is repeated, and there are never any solutions. Nobody grows as all the players are very stuck in the cycle of repeating their tired lines, all for drama.
Choices, choices, choices.
Honesty: Say what you mean, mean what you say. There is greater soul in honestly facing painful situations. Look fearlessly within. The people you love the most are the ones to risk more honesty with.
Respect for Self & Others: Balance both. Take Responsibility. Learn boundaries. Have empathy and self-protection. Do not be either too self effacing or too narcissistic.
Make Agreements That Work: Negotiation/middle ground leads to possibilities. More able to handle complexity. There has to be room for both people's wants and agendas. Solve problems together.
Movies that Illustrate VRP
Notes on a Scandal
Shattered Glass
House of Sand and Fog
Mystic River
Monster
Weight of Water
Books:
Learn about the game in management:
Power with People by Greg Lester Ph.D.
The game is defined in the 70's classic:
What Do You Say After You Say Hello by Eric Berne
(http://www.therapyideas.net/triangles.htm)
3 comments:
Very good post! Honesty is the most important I certainly agree. Something I was not a few years back. Now, I can be too honest and then again, I can even improve in being even more honest. If you know what I mean. Thank you for sharing....
I love this. Great post!
It's not Rhonda's Triangle, It's Rhoda. More info on manipulation on my blog: www.relationshiprealities.wordpress.com
Thanks, the author of therapyideas site that this came from.
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